This week our son-in-law shared with us some fresh-caught salmon from the Columbia River. It was deep red, firm, and tasty—much more flavorful than any salmon from the grocery store. More important than the salmon was the time he spent catching the fish. We don’t know how many hours were involved, but a single salmon can cost a day of patient effort. His gift was a gift of time and sharing. Gifts of time, service, and sacrifice have great meaning.We notice that some thoughtful people give of their time, but that other people do not. Our daughter picked us up at the airport, late at night, on our recent return from Russia. Her unselfish gift of time was most appreciated. Sometimes she will pick up lunch on her way over to our home and share extra sandwiches and sodas with us without fanfare or expectation of reward. Spontaneous, considerate gifts have great meaning.
Expressions of gratitude
Because we live a long distance away from most of our relatives, we usually ship gifts for Christmas, weddings, and birthdays—though our preference is always to deliver “in person.” Sometimes we will receive a “thank-you” note in return, but most of the time we do not!
The simple “thank you” note or other sincere expression of appreciation distinguishes gratitude from ingratitude, etiquette from carelessness.
The gift of inclusion
We like to visit friends and relatives, even those who live far away. Some are happy to see us; others seem indifferent or inconvenienced. It’s easy to detect.
Some of our relatives and friends have visited our home in Richland. It’s a nice place with amenities and recreational opportunities. We enjoy hosting. Most relatives, however, do not come, or they visit infrequently.
Some include us in their circle of friendship and share their lives with us. Others remain silent, separate, disinterested, and even unknown. Some call on the phone; others seldom call or write, even with availability of effortless email. We notice.
Gifts that show respect
The most important gift of grandchildren to grandparents is their interest in visiting and sharing time. A grandchild shows respect by spending time with grandparents. We love our grandchildren and cherish the time that they spend with us in our home. Their gift of time and interest is the most important gift that they can give.
“Let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver” (2 Cor. 9:7).
